How are you? How’s your summer? (If you are living or visiting in Northern Hemisphere.)
Hope you are finding peace in your mind and feel the sunshine energy and keep hydrated:)
Today, I want talk about grief.If you don’t feel to read about grief please, skip. maybe some other time.
Grief is emotional suffering from loss of your loved one, breaking up, loosing jobs, miscarriage、abortion, etc.like your heart getting holes. emptiness.and fighting with emotional rollercoasters. It might be effecting physically our body keeps emotional pain.causing insomnia, shoulder stiffness.low appetite, low energy, headache. stomachs etc..
some of peoples are experienced out of control emotional, sadness, anger, depression, bargaining, denial. blaming etc.many emotional layers and They are coming unexpecting. like crying on the street. triggers from some words.etc… some of people’s are just numb. nothing feels. but It’s ok.
each person grief experience different ways.
like waves one day is ok. other day is crying.
me myself I’m still in grief processing from I lost my loved one in 2016. most of the time. I’m ok.I do think about him at least once a day but I feel more warmness when I think about him now.
I adopted my grief. and Grief made me opening up my empathic power.and changed my life so much. in the good way.
sometimes asking him to protecting me. encouraging me.He is becoming my guardian angel.
but Why we suffer. Why we still crying. why still anger.
because of love.
We love(d) that person so much. love you. miss you so much. We want back them but we can’t.
we never stop love them. but we don’t want emotional roloercoster. It’s hurt us.It’s like fighting with unknown.feels never ending. but we are able to adopt grief and restart.
Grief is makes us pause to rethink about our life.
There are many ways to healing grief (or communicate who’s in grief)
Grief processing need supporting from other person’s. family, friends, therapist, healers. in your community persons.sharing your feelings.and releasing your emotional.
giving permission to yourself.It’s ok to crying. or other emotional showing up.or nothing feels.Also hard to do regular life activity(ex. can’t read books or hard to concentrate two hours movies.go out side of home etc…)
sometimes without words helps us. giving flowers to your friends who’s in grief. or just be with them. listening them.or giving hugs. and showing compassion smile face to them.(I know It’s hard to smiling… but my first stage of grief processing. most of my friends are looking at me sad face. that made me so sad. they used to be smiling at me. I felt I was a victim.and Don’t look at me pity face! I didn’t like it) Please, trying to be neutral but compassion When you are interact who’s in grief.
Grief makes us vulnerable. you might experience. sensitive to sounds. smells, hard to be in social activities with large groups.Please, make a boundaries with others.and avoid unwanted situations.If you feel too much.
Please, don’t say that “why are you still crying ?” to who’s in grief. each person’s processing is different ways and some of people need more time.and avoid these persons.who’s not understand What you are going though. and If your friends or family in grief sudden crying. give them tissue and give them some space.after crying waves calm down. Please, offering water.
It is a time for yourself.not other’s grief healing need to focusing on yourself.keep monitoring your body and feels.anything noticed? what did you eat Today? How’s your sleep? Ho’w your activity?How do you feel? keep tracking substance use.If you feel out of control. you might need professional help.
It is ok to be a angry.showing anger is a part of grief processing. releasing your anger different ways.screaming to pillows, punching cushions.physical movements helps us releasing anger like riding bike, work out, swimming, etc…If you feel you hurt someone. you can apologies to them. and let them you are in grief processing.
If you have suicidal thoughts.It is a natural reactions.during grief.If you want talk someone call 988 (Suicide and Crisis Lifeline) It’s ok to sharing your feelings.and you are not alone.
time is healing. just let be you. and rest. our body is holding grief. as much as you can Please, rest and don’t push yourself to hard.
Remember There are so many ways to help, support. caring(caring is a love) sharing.listening If you need reference contact me and I’m also offering grief healing treatment.
You don’t need though alone.
Grief is hard but Grief could be turn into your super power. and our life is more precious and enrich.
Ps. It’s ok to have fun time during grief.sometime we need to a set side of grief.and joy is a part of our feels we need to feel:)
